Last week we wrote about shy extroverts and how to recognise them. This week, we are thinking about outgoing introverts.
Most of us know that we are somewhere on the introversion/extroversion spectrum, but we sometimes forget that this could be true for others, too! At Cerulean, we try to help our learners understand themselves and others in order to improve communications and productivity.
So what is an outgoing introvert? Well they are usually competent in social situations, able to work well in teams and even be the life and soul of the party, but they will definitely want quiet time after these activities! This need to be on their own to recharge can cause misunderstandings when people don’t know them well, as their need for quiet can be misinterpreted as offended or standoffish behaviour.
Outgoing introverts can do small talk when needed, but they can find this a costly activity, so they will usually pick and choose which events to go to if small talk is likely to be a feature. Introverts tend to prefer thinking deeply and reflecting, so superficial chat (which extroverts use to show their friendliness!) is likely to be effortful if they have to keep it going for a long time whilst meeting many different people.
What kind of work do outgoing introverts gravitate towards? Strangely, you will often find them in roles that look like they would be better suited to extoverts -public speakers, actors, musicians, fitness instructors, coaches, teachers and trainers (yes, we know!) are some of the jobs where you will find outgoing introverts. Why? Well they tend to shine when they are communicating, guiding people and leading groups ay might initially be mistaken for extroverts. However, when it comes to down time, they prefer being on their own or with a small group of trusted friends. Much more restful!
How can you support outgoing introverts at work and home? Recognise that their need for quiet is an important part of who they are and respect it – their introversion is an important part of who they are and they need alone time to function well. If they’ve had a long day at work, don’t be surprised if they are grumpy when you ask them how their day was! It’s not personal -they need quiet and time to recharge after a day of interacting with many people.
On our masterclasses and workshops we always emphasise the importance of understanding yourself and others as it saves a lot of time and makes teams more productive. Just know where you sit on the spectrum can do wonders for everyone’s productivity.
Want to know more? Have a look at our workshop on emotional intelligence, More Than IQ http://www.ceruleanblu.co.uk/wp-content/uploads/2015/04/Learning-Lunch-More-than-IQ-April15.pdf