What do you want?

Take a minute and think about it – what do you really want?

All through 2015, we have helped our clients with complicated people and business issues, conflicts and dilemas and each time we have reached a point where there’s a key question to be asked. Something like:

“What do you want to happen?”
“What do you want to get from this situation?”
“What do you want?”

It’s been quite instructive to note how often people either don’t know or have not articulated to themselves what they truly want in any given situation. We don’t promise that we can always get what our clients want (and sometime it might not be good for anyone if we could!) but we do think it is worth getting clarity on what you want and why. At least from that position you can think rationally about the outcomes you want to achieve, whether these make sense overall and the steps to get there. If we know what we want, then we can be clear and specific in going after it.

So why are we talking to you about this now? Well it’s that time of year when everyone is talking about whether they will or will not be making resolutions for the new year and they usually have pretty firm opinions one way or the other. And it seems to us that getting clarity on what you want is a crucial part of creating successful and achievable goals. It’s easier to say you want to be healthier or richer or better qualified than to really think about ‘why?’ and ‘what for?’ Sometimes going down that path leads to difficult decisions that we might not be willing, able or ready to take.

Some psychologists argue that it’s difficult to achieve change in the months to come without making resolutions – the psychological deadline of the new year beginning drives people to set goals and try to achieve them. However, there are equally pressing arguments for not bothering with resolutions as you can be setting yourself up to fail – it’s best to make small and lasting changes, so the argument goes.

What do we think at Cerulean? Well, we take a pragmatic stance on this one – whatever works for you is good! If you think you’d like to make some powerful resolutions, you might want to write them down and make space in your diary through the year to work on them. You’ll also need to hold yourself to account, or get a friend or colleague to be your ‘critical friend’, challenging you when you go off-task and celebrating your successes when you have them. If you’re going for the small changes route, then we’d suggest you pick just one thing where you want to make that small change and make sure it’s embedded before you choose another.

There is a third option, of course – doing nothing at all. This is perfectly valid, but we always remind our clients that’s just as much a decision in its own right, so choose carefully!

We wish you a happy, healthy, peaceful and prosperous New Year and we look forward to working with you in 2016.